About 20 years ago I went through a personal development course called Lifestream. It was very profound at the time and provided me with a lot of tools. The other day while going through some papers I stumbled upon this “poem.”. It got me thinking about how I have dealt with my diabetes and my life. Be compassionate to yourself as you read it and as you review your past, and perhaps current, approach. There is great wisdom in the words.
The Difference Between Leaders and Victims
Leaders make mistakes and say, “I made a mistake,” and make up for it. Victims make mistakes and say, “I’m sorry,” and do the same thing the next time.
Leaders say “I’m good, but not as good as I can be, yet.”
Victims say “I’m not as bad as a lot of other people.”
Leaders affect others.
Victims are affected by others.
Leaders would rather be admired than liked, and wind up having an abundance of both.
Victims would rather be liked than admired, and wind up having little of either.
Leaders respect others and try to learn something from them.
Victims resent others and try to find their faults.
Leaders stand for something and are willing to to fight for it if necessary.
Victims stand for nothing and either fight about everything, or nothing.
“There are essentially two categories of people in the world…leaders and victims. Leaders are those whose purpose seems to be to inspire and motivate victims until they become leaders. Victims are those whose purpose seems to be to criticize and resist leaders until they become victims.”
A diagnosis of diabetes can easily lead one to the path of being a victim. Make no mistake, there is great pain, self pity, depression, resentment, anger, fear that comes with being diagnosed with a chronic illness that you did not ask for and did nothing to get. So, if you fall in the category of being a victim do not be too hard on yourself. Instead, be grateful to the people around you who have inspired you and who have helped to motivate you to at least be a survivor. Life is not black and white. Yes, you either fall in the category of victim or leader but because you are here you have the makings of a leader. The universe would not have given you a chance if you didn’t. So, don’t give up. Keep searching for the ladder that leads you out of victimhood and you will begin to get a glimpse of the light of leadership. I am still climbing…………One step at a time. And to you leaders out there. Thank you and forgive us victims for our parasitic nature. We are in debt to you.